Aju Fenn								719-528-1792 (H)
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Ann, B-day Sept 20
Julia, B-day Sept 28, 2001

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Philosophy:

Step 1: Look at yourself, Identify your fears. 
        	List all the people that have hurt you, and how they hurt you.
	Take an inventory of all the people, places, things, and ideas
	   that have hurt you. No fear is too small - list it

Step 2: Stop acting selfishly, Correct your own problems
	Your goal is to not be selfish for 1 hour.  If you are selfish
	during that hour, start over again for one more hour.

Step 3: Admit that you are powerless to change anyone else's behavior
	Pray for the person you are mad at.

Step 4: Call on a higher power

When in an argument, ask yourself: "What have I done to hurt this 
person?" "Does this person feel I've hurt them?"  "Why do they feel this way?" 
"What is their fear?"

Aju makes an inventory every week of who he's hurt or any selfish
actions.

Don't choose a behavior for selfish reasons
Don't say something for selfish reasons

Am I behaving selfishly?
Ask: "Am I trying to gain or loose something because of my behavior?"
     "Are you gaining or loosing something by your behavior?"

If you decide that the reason to change your behavior is because you
will gain something from it, then that is the wrong reason.

The reason (to be nice) is because it's the right thing to do, not
because you'll get something out of it.

When someone hurts you, remember that you've hurt the other person, 
they feel you've hurt them or someone else has hurt them and they 
are scared of something.

If someone is hurt or sick, would you yell at them?  
No, you should pray for them. 
At first, the prayer is just words, but after two weeks
you begin to feel and you will loose your anger toward them.

If you know your fear and face it, admit that you cannot control it,
then the other person will not be able to make you afraid again.

Q: If you are an athiest how can you pray for another person?
A: Call on a higher power.

Aju is the wise man on the mountain.

A man climbs up mountain seeking wisdom from the wise man at the top.
"What is the meaning of life?" he asks.
"You cannot find the answer by asking questions.
There is no easy way.  There is no secret. It will require a lot of hard work," he says.
Then he gives the man a kick in the pants and sends him tumbling 
back down the mountain.